What are your core desired feelings?
Do you know? Think about it now.
In Kinesiology sessions, we focus on not only what you want to create in your life (such as a new job, relationship, clear communication, weight-loss or whatever it is), but also how you want to feel. Because that’s what you really want – to feel certain ways.
That’s probably why I love Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map so much – it’s a really beautiful, feminine approach to goal-setting that focuses on your desires and feelings. There’s a whole process, but a big part of it is defining your core desires, and the actions that will help you feel that way.
It flips goal setting upside down
We often imagine that attaining a certain goal will give us that feeling, but it’s really the wrong way around. If we can get into the feeling that we believe we’ll experience by achieving our goal – we’ll achieve it far more readily too.
So rather than focusing on, for example, a goal like, “I want to lose weight”, you clarify the feelings you’re really seeking – for example, wanting to feel light, free, energetic, beautiful, acknowledged – and what you can do to feel that way right now.
In the Desire Map you get a couple of e-books (the actual book and a writeable PDF workbook), audio versions for each, videos, playlists to listen in to while you explore, a little app to create your own reminders of your goals, what you’re grateful for and what you want to change (like the images for this post) and a hard copy of the book delivered too!
Danielle did a live stream video when she launched - it includes some fab reflective questions to get you thinking. It does go for an hour, so wait til you’ve got some time to settle in and watch it! I think it’s so helpful to reflect on what you really want, and what you’re grateful for too.
Using your left and right brain for goal setting
I’m finding Leonie Dawson’s 2013 workbooks have been a lovely accompaniment. I shared about these in this post. They’re a bit more left-brain focused on what you actually want to achieve in the new year and when, and a great opportunity to reflect on the year that’s been.
What do you use for goal setting and reflection?
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